Lots of ladies

Every month at my gym we host a women’s open mat. They are open to all women and they are quite fun. It’s a great chance for us to get the experience of training with other women. They have not typically been hugely attended with our average being around 6 women, but hey, that’s about 5 more than I am used to getting to train with!

However the stars aligned in favor of women jiu-jitsuers in the Philadelphia area during our November open mat and 23 women came to train. 23 women!!! This was only the third time in my training career that I had seen 20 or more women in one room to train and the other two events I had paid for (not that they weren’t totally worth it).

I really don’t know if I can make the guys understand what a rare treat this is for us ladies. In my gym there is a chance that any class you attend will have 20 or more guys there to train with. In order for us to get that many women we had to host an open mat, mobilize people from other gyms and advertise in women’s grappling groups. We had a couple of people come from about 2 hours away just for the chance to train with some women. One of them, a purple belt, said it was the first time she had gotten to roll with a woman who was her rank or above.

Every time I get the chance to train with a lot of women, particularly women I don’t train with often, I am struck with the realization of how different it is than rolling with the guys. Instead of dealing with being outsized and outstrengthed, I have to adapt to smaller, quicker opponents. I actually found myself getting frustrated at one point and thinking “these girls never stay still!”.

When thinking about this later it occurred to me that this might be how the guys I train with feel about me. I have often heard guys say that rolling with the women is challenging because they are technical and squirmy but it’s not something I’ve experienced a lot since most of my training is with guys. It was really eye opening. I started to understand why the urge is there to just lay on top of someone and hold them down (but I still don’t like having this done to me…I haven’t evolved that much).

I also began to wonder what my jiu-jitsu would be like if I trained with that many women all the time. I feel like I, as well as probably lots of women who train, have had to adapt my jiu-jitsu so that I can deal with size and strength. What kind of game would I have if I trained with women all the time? Perhaps I’d be the smasher? Probably I won’t ever find this out but I do find it intriguing.

As awesome as women’s open mat was, I also find these events to be somewhat bittersweet. Having a rare glimpse of what it would be like if there were as many women who trained as men is a bit of a tease. Rolling with someone who is more evenly matched to you physically is very different than rolling as the smaller/weaker person most of the time. Although I love the guys I train with and enjoy it, it’s really fun to roll with people who don’t have the option to smash you sometimes.

However I know that we are still some time away from being anywhere close to equaling the number of guys who train. In the meantime I will continue to enjoy the challenges that come with training with the guys and look forward to events like open mat where I get to mix it up with the ladies.

The ladies who came to women’s open mat

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5 responses to “Lots of ladies”

  1. Jiu Jiu says :

    This is wonderful. I recently went to a women’s open mat that had 20 white belt women at it! I was the only blue belt woman – which felt very strange. Thanks for reminding me to write about it!!

    • Your Doom says :

      White belts were the minority at our open mat which is definitely strange. The people in the back row are the white belts, the people in the middle are blues and those in front are purples and browns. We were so spoiled!

  2. mini says :

    You’re lucky, dude. I don’t think there’s even 23 women practicing BJJ/grappling in my country. Maybe there’s 15. We do have three female black belts but I’ve never meet them. There’s one BJJ gym where almost all the black belts are training, I think they are 12(!) BB.

    Did you try to do some techniques that rarely works on stronger opponents – like americana from sidecontrol or kimura form mount?

    • Your Doom says :

      I don’t think I did during open mat but funny you should mention it because just last night I was rolling with a girl from our gym and went for an americana from mount and was surprised I was actually able to move her arm and control it. I thought to myself “hey that can actually work!”.

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